Part 1: But, But, But!…Reasons We Don’t Make Ourselves a Priority and The 1 Thing That May Change Your Mind
I’m going to be honest…this blog was hard for me to write. Why? Because I never want to give my readers the impression that I’m judging them. And talking about reasons why people don’t make time to exercise, eat right, and unwind/destress can seem like I’m coming from steroids australia a “I’m better than you ’cause I’ve got it all figured out” kind of place. But I don’t have it all figured out, and never will. I’ve just found what works for me on most days, I continue to stay connected to my motivators, and I make sure I fit it time to re-energize. And at the core of it all, that’s what I want to help you do! Find your reasons for wanting to make changes, figure out if you’re truly willing to do the work required, and finding creative, deliberate ways to make it work. All while finding balance, treating yourself to challenges (because that’s how we grow), and finding an immense appreciation for yourself in the process.
When I talk to people about their struggles with prioritizing exercise, nutrition and de-stressing, the number 1 reason they don’t do it is simple…lack of time. Don’t have it, can’t find it, when they do find it, other things take precedence. But, consider this…I like to think of time as energy. Because that’s what we’re lacking, right? Energy. Now, I’m not a “no excuses” kind of coach. I fully understand the pressure most people are under to get things done. Work, school, family, friends, duties around the house, volunteering, church, etc. But at some point, we have to stop wishing for the time and energy and start making room for it. How do we do this? Well, from what I’ve personally experienced, there are a few issues to consider.
1) Poor energy (time) management
2) Not willing to give up certain things (TV, Facebook surfing every 10 minutes, etc)
3) Too many commitments
4) Thinking we need more time for exercise, healthy eating, stress relief than we actually do
Let’s take a gander at each of these.
* Poor time management is a killer of all things productive. Man, am I learning this with starting a business! If I’m going to get done all that I need and want to accomplish, I have to seriously reconsider how I manage my time. I am up at 4 a.m. everyday, getting in some writing and sometimes gym time, regardless of whether I really need to be or not. Think I’m crazy? Maybe But work and training at the gym are top tier priorities, and I get so much done between 4:00-7:30 before my munchkins wake up. It’s awesome! But in full disclosure, I’m 100% a morning person. If you asked me to stay up past 10:00 at night, no way! So why would I get up so early on the days I don’t need to? Because connolly drive medical centre that’s when my energy is at it’s highest, and no one needs me at 4 a.m. And, because life happens. I know that my pre-planned schedule will never go the way I anticipate, and when things come up (kids getting sick, snow days, me getting sick) I will be ahead of the game. It’s my way of using my energy wisely.
So we must look at our day. Where can we sneak in some productivity time? This requires getting creative and realizing it may involve getting up earlier or staying up later. Not willing to do that…not a chance? Cool. (Just know that early morning time is prime real estate. Especially when you’re a parent). And, we may need to reconsider how much we truly want to change. Hear me out, I’m not judging! I’m simply stating that re-evaluating current habits and daily structures is necessary in order to change. Moving on…
* Where we spend our free time. We are all entitled to some zone out time. That includes TV shows, internet surfing, whatever. Two years ago, I was religiously watching Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Criminal Minds and probably a couple of other shows. I would DVR them and watch them during the day when my kids were at school. It’s amazing to me to look at my life now and see how things have changed. When I decided to take hold of my fitness, nutrition, and overall happiness in life and take them to another level, I gave up most TV. But, here’s the interesting thing…it wasn’t instant and wasn’t necessarily intentional. It just kind of happened as I took little steps toward my goals. I realized there were certain things that just weren’t really adding value to my life. And TV was one of them. Does that mean I never watch TV? No! But it’s rare. I would rather spend my zone out time doing other things. Things that I’ve learned are just as relaxing, if not more. Things like reading books to help me increase productivity, help me understand my work more, to actually add value to my life. And yes, napping! Power naps rule!
So we must take an honest look at how and where we spend our zone out time. If it is TV, are there shows we could stand to give up? That would likely free up 30 minutes to an hour a day. Wow! Think about that for a minute. A whole extra hour? Does that TV show add value to our life? If not, we can let it go…we can always change our mind and come back to it.
* Too many commitments. This one is a toughy. I find when talking to people, that sometimes they put a good bit of their self worth in being busy, busy, busy! If they’re not super busy, all the time, that means they’re not helping anyone. It’s hard to say no sometimes! But we have to consider what we’re saying yes to. My mentor, Jill Coleman of JillFit Physiques, argues that often times when we constantly say yes to primobolan people, even when we really don’t want to, we are depriving them of the experience of doing that thing for themselves and learning from it. We want to be all things to all people. But, what about being what WE need us to be? Where does that fit in? Let’s leave this one at that, and really challenge ourselves to make a list of all our time commitments. Ask ourselves what we are getting out of each of them, and what would happen if we let some of them go. Would the other people involved survive without our participation? How might it benefit them?
* Thinking we need more time than we really do. How long do you think you need to exercise, de-stress a little and maintain sustainable, healthy eating habits? I mean on a daily basis. Let’s look at exercise first. I promise you, you don’t actually NEED more than 30 minutes a day if you are working out at the right intensity and are approaching it with intent. What do I mean by that? Did you know most people in the gym spend half their time talking, thinking about what exercise to do next, performing a workout that doesn’t even meet their intended goals? In other words, wasting time. I see it every single day. People on the treadmill for an hour, then moving on to strength training for 30 minutes or so, then stretching, talking, and on and on. No wonder we don’t want to start exercising! It takes forever! But it doesn’t have to. Get a plan together. If we don’t know what to do when it comes to exercise, we can solicit some help. Go to the gym, or clenbuterol for sale our living room, with purpose and intent…get in, get out. Same with eating habits. There are hacks out there to help us, and all we have to do is ask someone who is already doing it. I’ve found that de-stressing usually happens best at 3 times during the day 1) in the morning before things get hairy, 2) after lunch, or 3) at night when we cozy up in bed. Take 5 or 10 minutes and put some relaxing music on and let our mind go. YouTube some meditation music. We can relax in our car before heading back in the office. Set our phone alarm and be intentional. I do this in the morning while I’m waiting for my coffee to brew. Or go to bed 5-10 minutes early. Just take a step
We’ll pick this up next time and talk about the guilt we tend to feel when taking time for ourselves, and the one thing that may bring you to bumping yourself up on the priority list! Until then, love to you all…and Do Something Awesome!
It’s OK Not to Be OK: 5 Ways to Accept the Bad Days and Still Keep Truckin’
Have you ever know someone that is ridiculously positive, like ALL the time? No matter what, they’re all…”Look on the bright side”, or “Be grateful for what you have”, blah, blah, blah. Don’t they know that sometimes we just need to feel the bad days. They happen, it’s called life. I consider myself to be one of the most positive people I know, but that has definitely not always been the case, and that doesn’t mean I don’t have bad days…believe me I do! I know I’ve shared a little about my past with you all, but here’s a little more.
I was a laxative bulimic for 8 years. That means every time I ate, no matter the amount, I would swallow down about 6-8 laxatives to get rid of the food. I was in a constant state of dehydration, which led to heart palpatations, dizziness, headaches, dry mouth, etc. I would get so depleted of nourishment through this process, but I would still force myself to exercise hours upon hours a day. It was never enough. Then, because my body was so completely drained, I would binge on any food I could get my hands on. Aaaand the cycle would repeat. I was in a black hole. Isolated, angry, depressed, bitchy, unhappy, resentful hopeless, you name it. It absolutely controlled my every thought, feeling, my life. I tried psychologists, registered dieticians…all the “normal” anavar australia solutions. Nada. What I didn’t know was that I needed to ditch the normal, I needed something that would allow me to completely stop the obsessive, restrictive, all or nothing mentality. BUT, I was the one who had to make that decision to try something else. And thank God I took that leap!
I hired a coach. I didn’t have any idea what to expect, but I was out of options. It was this, or I was going to live the rest of my miserable life in the pit of an eating disorder and probably not see my kids reach their 20s. Pretty sad, right? NO! Do not feel sorry for me, or anyone else struggling. Be empathetic, but do not pity them. My coach empowered and guided me to understand that I held the reigns the whole time. The eating disorder did not control me, it was not my identity. It is my cross to bear, and I’m finally at a point where I can be grateful for what it has taught me and accepting of where it has brought me. I set goals with my coach, daily actions to move me forward. Did I have slip ups? Ha! You have no idea Did I question whether this was going to work? You betcha! Was I tempted to give up and just accept the fact that I was sick and broken? Just about every day! And this pissed me off! Here I was doing something different, challenging the norms, and I still wasn’t “fixed”. I still had bad days. I thought once I got a coach, set some goals, learned new habits, that it would all just poof! click, and I’d be better. Soooo not the case!
The bad days never really stop, do they? All we can do is learn to roll with them, deal with them as they come and develop ways to tackle them. Don’t walk around in anticipation of them, though. When you’re living a fitness and nutrition lifestyle that isn’t superdrol meant for you, that’s not forever sustainable, you know it in your gut. You are in constant worry mode because you know that any results you achieve are temporary. But, when you find that sweet spot, where you actually enjoy the way you eat and exercise, that worry goes away! And dealing with the bad days becomes a hell of a lot easier. And that’s where I eventually got with my coach and let me tell you…it was a revelation! So now when I have bad days and I feel frustrated, stuck and not seeing progress, mentally or physically, these are the 5 tools I use to deal: